Men, we all have heard or read somewhere that we are to love our wife. Depending on our background, upbringing, culture or religion, this could mean a different delivery to our wife. What you may interpret as “loving your wife” could mean paying the bills. I on the other hand may have an idea in my head that loving my wife means doing the yard work or taking out the trash. If I’m not mistaken, that is a duty or a chore. Some may say that taking his wife to dinner or to a nice movie does show that he loves his wife. This is another form of action or performance of what love is.

Is doing “things” truly loving your wife? Don’t get me wrong, if you are doing things together with your wife, which is great and should be expected, this is a good thing. There are some couples out there who do not get the pleasure of doing romantic events or having lovely night outs with just each other.

Note: We will talk about that later.

Please know that “things” do get old and die and wrinkle and wither away. There is a progression that the marital journey does follow regardless of who you are. In this journey of love and marital bliss, there is always that element of familiarity that the love expressions become stale and men it is up to us to stay on point and recognize the signs when a tune-up is needed.

Husbands, we have to know our rightful place and authority of what has been instilled in us to love our wife and to lay our life down for her in any situation. That’s right, on earth, the buck stops with you. We are built to handle life differently than our wife. It does not matter how strong she is and how well she handles the pressures of life, women are strength. She is also a wonderful, beautiful delicate flower that should be cared for and nurtured. This does not negate her independence or individuality, our love for them allows them to freely be who they are even more. Love covers and conceals any faults and covers any infirmities and our love should build her up. Our love for our wife should always be fuel to launch her higher than she was before us.

If unsure, learn what really fuels her desires and with all power that lies within you, start working towards those desires. The key is to become so familiar with her, that loving her is like breathing; it’s a part of you and becomes second nature.

Johnnie B. Sanders
Husband and Wife for Life Writer / Speaker