A Moment Away

Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and then……..again. You all know the drill. It’s the demands of life and routines that are set in place to fill in our already busy days.

Well, today was the first time in the house all by myself in a while. As I lay down with my notepad, I reflect on the importance of having time to myself. The quietness and still in the air gives me the opportunity to write out my thoughts, gain clarity of why I was put here on this earth, reflect on the blessings in my life, regain my energy, de-stress and relax. After my husband and I helped each other go through years of depression, I now fully understand the value of this moment away from work, church, friends, and even family. Through those low days, it was the “time outs” we both had to ourselves that helped us with the times we needed together.

One day, I woke up to find my husband still in bed with me. Normally, he would be at work but he turned to me and said that he called his boss to tell him that he wouldn’t be going in to work that day because he needed to re-focus his mind. I congratulated him for recognizing that he needed a “time out”, which is so hard to do since we all feel guilty about taking time for ourselves. Remembering the past years of struggles that we both faced, I quickly jumped at the opportunity to create a moment for him and only him. Sometimes that moment is all we need.

I decided to called a massage parlor and book an appointment for him.

I learned through our depression years that the time you spend with yourself is valuable and irreplaceable. It’s a sacred time for you to re-connect with YOU.

Let’s face it, we all want/need time to ourselves. If both spouses dedicated their time to and created a passion for learning and recognizing what the other spouse needed, and then fulfilled it, BOTH spouses would always have everything they need. In our situation, my husband needed time away. I honored him with that.

Honor your spouse. Learn about their needs and stress triggers. Be creative in finding ways that will give them an opportunity to be present in their own moment. They deserve it, and your marriage needs it.

written by: Laquilla Lane