Meet Mvuleni and Nthabi

Married 4yrs

How and where did you meet?

We met at a mutual friends party at 16 and 19 years of age.  Mvuleni: She had her hair in a piggy-tale to the side of her head and that’s what grabbed my attention. She stuck out like a sore thumb because of that hair-style!  Nthabi: We were good friends for 6 yrs until I decided to give him a chance. He begged me for a while to give him a chance at treating me like a queen and showing me what true love is. I accepted and I have since never looked back!

Share something about each other that you admire:

We love the fact that we are more of best friends than husband & wife or parents. We have kept the friendship going strong and we’re tied to each others hips.

Share a challenge in your marriage that you have overcome together and how you overcame it:

Nthabi: My husband is a cop in South Africa and he is exposed to a lot of horrible things because the crime here is rather bad. He would tell me of stories that broke me down that he had to deal with. It was very hard for him to cope with the pain and as a result, he resorted to alcohol abuse. Mvuleni: It nearly broke our marriage. We we’re expecting our 2nd son and she couldn’t cope, being pregnant and having a husband who was constantly drunk. Then, word came out that she drove me to drink, that she was not a good wife to me and that I needed to find somebody better.

“We went to seek help from our church and our parents but the greatest help of all was God. With having 2 kids and love for each other, we both prayed for God to please mend our marriage.”

After you have overcome the situation, how has it made your marriage stronger?

Nthabi: The fact that he was told to leave me but never did, when the opportunity presented itself, was proof enough to me that he loved me & our 2 boys. Mvuleni: I saw that my drinking was breaking us apart, so I have now stopped. Nthabi: Glory to God!

After all of that battle we are now more open with each other, we communicate better and don’t bottle up emotions anymore.  We know when to seek help and we recognize which people wanted our marriage to fall apart. We have since then cut all contact with those negative people and we now love God and each other even more then we did since His intervention in our marriage

Share a funny or interesting story.

Nthabi: This is an interesting one: Before I met my husband my father passed away. The day my husband (friend at the time) visited my house my mother could have passed out cold because my husband looked just like my father. In a way I guess I was drawn to him by the fact that I see my father in him. He loves & takes good care of me just like a father would!