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Ignite your Spark!

View More: http://zestzealphoto.pass.us/laneanniversaryIntimacy is an vital part the longevity of a healthy marriage. Kissing, holding hands, hugging, touching and sexual intercourse are all positive ways of expressing love for each other. These sacred times with just you and your spouse will intensify the bond you share and ignite the sparks of romance and passion. Not only should intimacy be exciting, but it needs to be enjoyable as well. We’ve partnered with SASMAR, who is the leading provider in excellent personal lubricants. From warming to flavored lubricants, they can help make the sexual experience with your spouse more pleasurable and creative.


Being creative in the bedroom and sharing your intimacy ideas will help you learn more about your spouses needs and desires, and also help your communication become more open and honest. What a way to increase the connection with your spouse! Take control over your bedrooms spontaneity and watch a change happen in your relationship. Get a special 10% off using Coupon Code: love-sasmar and get your SASMAR products here: SASMAR Personal Lubricants.

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Money Tips and More

with Tai and Talaat!



Money is one of the number one reasons why marriages fall apart. It can be difficult to get both spouses on the same page financially. What happens when a saver marries a spender? Well…that’s our story. Let us formally introduce ourselves; we are Talaat and Tai McNeely founders of HisandHerMoney.com. Before our marriage ever began, we found ourselves in quite a difficult situation.
We were total opposites when it came to how we handled our finances. Talaat was a natural spender who was deep in debt with a bad terrible credit score. Conversely, Tai was a natural saver who had no debt whatsoever and coupled that feat with an outstanding credit score. We were faced with many questions prior to us getting married.

•    Do we let our credit scores dictate if we are compatible for marriage?
•    How will our previous money habits play a role in our marriage?
•    Do we merge our finances together?
•    How can we work together to become better at life and win with money?
•    Is there any hope for our future?
•    What does it feel like when one spouse has zero debt to now having $30,000 in debt?
•    Am I a loser because I have now made my debt problems my future spouse’s problems?
•    Can I change or is my past really who I am?
•    Should I have a secret account just in case our money situation gets worse?
•    How will we purchase a home? Do we put it in both of our names and risk having a low interest rate due to the lower credit score?
•    Do I have to take full responsibility for our finances simply because I’m better at it?
•    When do we start to expand our family?
•    Will we have to rely on two incomes to run our home?
•    What will our lives look like 5 years from now?


You can read more about our story here:
By the grace of God we made it through a difficult time in our relationship and we have been married for 9 years! This has not been a cake walk, but it has been rewarding. We came together as a TEAM and became totally debt free! We are on a mission to save marriages and teach them how to work together and win with money.
We will share money tips and articles here on HusbandandWifeforLife.com to help you gain control over your finances. What would you do if money was not an option? What goals and dreams do you aspire to achieve? What is holding you back? Is it possibly money, or maybe a job that you have to work at, to pay bills that you don’t want to pay?
We’ve been in debt, lots of debt…………. TWICE! We started our marriage off weighed down with various types of debt including car loans, signature bank loans, payday loans, credit card debt to name a few. To date we have totally eliminated every ounce of consumer debt and are DEBT FREE! We are now on a mission to totally eliminate our home mortgage! There was nothing easy or magical about the process. It took a great deal of hard work and dedication.  It was hard work…because in our eyes it was a huge amount of debt, that was going to take time and perseverance to make it through.
It took a great deal of dedication because of the fact that ALL of the debt that we began our marriage with came from ONE spouse. We put in a ton of work together to climb out the pit of debt and get ourselves on solid footing financially. It is our goal to show you how we did it and encourage you to realize that you can do it too.


HNH MoneyTalaat and Tai McNeely
His and Her Money | Founders & Editors


Conquer your Busy Life!


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With life’s challenges and everyday busy routines, finding ways to make your day a little less extreme is helpful and it takes some of that stress away. With grocery runs, audition calls, extra curricular classes, meetings, after-hour work hours and more, Mark and I are very busy parents and business owners. We are constantly on the go.  When we do make it home its time to relax and get ready for the next day. One way we keep the children busy while driving here and there is with our SanDisk Connect Wireless Stick.

62c8eb64-4544-11e5-b26b-22000af93a2dOur family is very media driven and we heavily rely on our tablets, phones, and computers. With the SanDisk Connect Wireless Stick, we able to download, upload and transfer music, media and text files to up to three our device all through a wireless connection! So, our children can be in our back seat watching the same movie, on their separate devices, transmitted from our SanDisk Connect Wireless Stick. They are completely engaged, while we can take a moment to clear our mind and concentrate while headed to our next destination. It is a moment well needed.


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On our recent road trip to California, we were in the car for 20 hours. With the breath taking views, there was A LOT of site seeing and pictures taken. The SanDisk Connect Wireless Stick allowed us to download our photos and videos right away! It gave us flexibility.  We were able to delete the downloaded photos and videos off our camera and free up our storage space to take a lot of new amazing photos. We came home with hundreds of memories of our trip. Priceless.



Conquer your busy life and try SanDisk Connect Wireless Stick for your family. They have a special 30% off coupon you can use to buy your first one!




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Trying to Conceive Just Became Easier!




Are you and your spouse trying to have a baby? Has months or years gone by without a positive test? We have come across a product that will help you conceive easier, faster and naturally! Our family experienced a year and a half of frustration trying to have our third child. It came right after the quick passing of our 35 week old still born baby. With the stress in both of our personal lives and hormonal changes of my physical body, every month also came with the failure of not conceiving again.

Within this time came a lot of disconnect between each other. Communication was slim to none and what was said, wasn’t being heard the way the other thought it should have been. Money troubles and debt began to occur, with the ongoing pregnancy tests and doctor visits. To many of you, it may even be fertility treatments, which can cost thousands of dollars.


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After we were able to conceive, we learned that the process made our marriage stronger and it helps us realize how much communication was important and how to be sensitive to each other feelings. Also, to put each other first when trying to understand each other and how the other perceives life’s situations.

If your road to conception is going longer than you ever imagined, try Conceive Plus®. Make your process faster, easier, natural and stress free. And, you’ll join the thousands of couples who did just that!

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Laquilla L.

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SASMAR Conceive Plus® sponsored this blog post. The opinions and text are all mine.


What To Do When Your Spouse Won’t Talk!




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        Disagreements, disappointments and arguments can lead to times when you just want to be in separate rooms. Seems so much easier to not even look at each other, right? Well, with communication being one of the vital keys to a successful marriage, that can’t last for long. So, if you have a spouse that doesn’t want to talk or you may be having a hard time voicing your concerns because you are just too upset, it is very important to find a way to communicate. Don’t know what to do? Here are some very successful ways to get the communication going again in your marriage. Pick one, pick two, or go with them all…..but, you will be talking again after you try these!


  • Type an Email-  There have been times we also couldn’t even get a word out to each other, or could bare to even look at each other because we were so upset. But, what email does is to re-open the line of communication so that at least things can start to work through. This is also a way for both spouses to say what is on their mind in a quiet way (withOUT the sound of yelling, mumbling, or grunts of frustrations). Emailing is also a way to type out what your thinking really fast, then go back and edit those “not so nice” words before you hit the send button. Once the line of communication is back open, email back and forth until you both are ready to schedule a time to talk about it.


  • Send a Text-  Hey! This is 2015 right? We all have phones and use them religiously, so why not use what you already have? If you have something on your mind to say to your spouse and just can’t get it out to their face, a simple text could help. Remember, keep your texts respectful. You may be upset or remorseful, but voice yourself with class and dignity. Words can take seconds to say (or text), and years to heal.


  • Write a Letter- This is our absolute favorite! We have done this multiple times, through good and bad times, and it works. There is something about putting pencil to paper. It is the most personal touch you can do to re-opening the line of communication with each other. Take a piece of paper, sit in a quiet place and really think about what is bothering you or how to say your apologies. Don’t only think about your perspective, but think about the situation from the spouse’s perspective also (this creates a better letter that reflects change and maturity). Again, be wise and be respectful while writing. We want to re-open communication, not shut it back down. After you’re finished, write at the end that they can write a letter back or if they are ready, schedule a time to talk. Leave it where they can find it without you around.


  • Leave a Voicemail- A spouse not answering the phone can be so aggravating, right? Wait. Breathe. Don’t let it get the best of you, you get the best of it. Leave a voicemail. But before you do, be sure you are NOT “on edge” and extremely upset. Settle down a little first, before making this call again. If you are calling to apologize…..be sympathetic, sincere and sensitive to your spouse’s feelings. This is not always effective, but your marriage is always worth a try.


  • Post-It Notes- Quick and easy! Little notes left around the house can be effective and also romantic. “I’m Sorry for …………” or “I won’t do that again because I see how much it hurt you”……or even “You mean so much more……”, can be small ways to open up communication while adding a little love. Leave them posted on mirrors, refrigerators, closet doors, steering wheels….anywhere you know they will be found. Be creative, but also seriously considering the feelings of your spouse.


  • Give a Gift- Not always encouraged, but if this is your spouse’s love language, it could possibly work. Flowers or fruit baskets delivered to their job, or a small heart shaped pendant. Either way, gifts are always eye-catchy and most of the time accepted. Attach a small note to your gift to encourage a talk so that you can start to end any disagreement or disappointments.


Your marriage is worth every attempt to successful communication with your spouse. Let us know which way works or has worked for you!

4 Ways to Know That You are Truly

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As responsibilities increase and the demands of your time seem to be never ending, life slowly becomes routine and sometimes a little less desirable. It’s easy during this time, to forget about the small things God has placed around you and the people that He gave you. Especially in your marriage, life can get so busy that you tend to neglect the most important part of your relationship, your spouse. You NEED your spouse to complete every area  in your marriage. It takes two to have a successful marriage. So, don’t let life get so busy, that you forget to enjoy the person God placed in your life. Here is 4 ways to truly know if you are enjoying your spouse:

1. When your spouse walks in the room, the entire atmosphere changes. The energy is magnifying. Including the smile on your face, everything inside of you radiates.

2. You are always looking for the next opportunity to be alone with them.

3. In public places you like to be sure they are noticed and you jump to the chance to introduce them to someone as your “husband” or “wife”.

4. When your spouse comes to you and wants to talk, everything else becomes less important.

If you are not experiencing the incredible qualities about your spouse, its time to re-prioritize, and say “NO” to some of the demands of your time so your spouse feels important and needed in the marriage. Your spouse is most important when it comes to the success of the marriage.

It’s easy to say, “I’m Sorry”, “I Love you”, “I won’t do it again”, or “I will do it tomorrow”, and move on about our day. BUT, empty promises only lead to empty marriages. Talk is more that just words. It holds a lot of value and love. Once love is discredited, it puts the entire marriage at risk and brings doubt and distrust into the relationship. Be truthful. Talk from your heart, but react with accountability.

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Laquilla Lane

A Moment Away


woman readingSunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and then……..again. You all know the drill. It’s the demands of life and routines that are set in place to fill in our already busy days.

Well, today was the first time in the house all by myself in a while. As I lay down with my notepad, I reflect on the importance of having time to myself. The quietness and still in the air gives me the opportunity to write out my thoughts, gain clarity of why I was put here on this earth, reflect on the blessings in my life, regain my energy, de-stress and relax. After my husband and I helped each other go through years of depression, I now fully understand the value of this moment away from work, church, friends, and even family. Through those low days, it was the “time outs” we both had to ourselves that helped us with the times we needed together.

One day, I woke up to find my husband still in bed with me. Normally, he would be at work but he turned to me and said that he called his boss to tell him that he wouldn’t be going in to work that day because he needed to re-focus his mind. I congratulated him for recognizing that he needed a “time out”, which is so hard to do since we all feel guilty about taking time for ourselves. Remembering the past years of struggles that we both faced, I quickly jumped at the opportunity to create a moment for him and only him. Sometimes that moment is all we need.

I decided to called a massage parlor and book an appointment for him.

I learned through our depression years that the time you spend with yourself is valuable and irreplaceable. It’s a sacred time for you to re-connect with YOU.

Let’s face it, we all want/need time to ourselves. If both spouses dedicated their time to and created a passion for learning and recognizing what the other spouse needed, and then fulfilled it, BOTH spouses would always have everything they need. In our situation, my husband needed time away. I honored him with that.

Honor your spouse. Learn about their needs and stress triggers. Be creative in finding ways that will give them an opportunity to be present in their own moment. They deserve it, and your marriage needs it.


written by: Laquilla Lane



   Coming together in marriage is fulfilling Gods will and purpose. When two people come together in Gods will, they become one while bringing their God given purpose with them within the relationship. When He reveals purpose in one spouses’ life, the marriage gains purpose as well. One goal in marriage is to pray for and support each other to find and walk into their purpose for their life. Passion will help give you direction towards what that purpose is and it will motivate you until you receive the manifestation of your purpose. Purpose will help you fulfill hope and wealth for your future and your marriage.

 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

      Many times spouses argue because of the miscommunication to each other about their passions and purpose. It is your job as a spouse to stay prayerful and ask God to reveal His purpose to you and to give your spouse their designed purpose as well. But….Get Ready! Once your spouses’ passion lines up with his/her purpose, you will notice a shift in your spouse and your marriage. There will be good time and not-so-good times, but they all will ultimately work together for the blessings God has placed over your marriage.

      Part of honoring God in your marriage means to support and push your spouse in fulfilling their purpose. Husbands and wives unite and align on their individual purposes and thus the purpose in marriage. Below are some tips from both Husband and Wife point of view to help your spouse walk in purpose!


      It’s hard to keep passion and purpose still. It will stir in your mind and spirit all day and all through the night. Your always thinking of new ideas and creating new concepts and it’s hard to turn it off. So, when your wife comes to you with what seems to be “another” idea or an “outrageous” concept, be positive, have faith and see light in what she is speaking. Fulfilling purpose requires thinking that will lift you out of your comfort zone and sometimes it will feel inconvenient and uncomfortable.


      Fulfilling a greater vision in life will bring times of frustration and failure. When your husband comes into this time, be his motivator. Husband are there to be the providers and to direct their family throughout life’s cycles. Making mistakes while fulfilling purpose can bring on doubt. Since he is born to lead, he can take mistakes as a spiritual and mental defeat. Keep him focused on Gods will for his life and the harvest of blessings waiting for him. Be creative and come to him with your own ideas on how you can help him overcome obstacles. This will reassure him that he’s not in it alone. Also, offer to lead prayer with him as night, pray for his faith and that God rewards his faith for successfully walking through trials. While he is down, this is the most important time to show your support, faith and love for what he believes in.


     Too much stress can be a slow killer of your visions, mind and spirit. Your wife needs a normal level of stress to be able to operate in her purpose. Pay attention to times when your wife is over-extending herself to others or becoming frustrated over certain situations. Learn the things that she does to relax and unwind. Then, take the initiative to make those things available for her. Make it a priority to be sure she has access to her stress relievers.


     To fulfill purpose it is important to know your strengths and how to utilize them. Get in tune with the areas your husband is the strongest in and expose them, Show him that his strengths are not in knowing everything, but in knowing how to use what he knows and choosing positives to overcome negatives. We all have weaknesses, negatives, and flaws, but they don’t need to have a spotlight. Our imperfections are all a part of our character, personality and ultimately our destiny.


     Support goes beyond words alone. Support takes action. Be a part of her greatest journey, which is her God given purpose. Be her cheerleader! Go with her to meetings or appointment. Try your best to be present with her at social and networking functions. Make every effort to make it easy for her to meet deadlines. Talk about her faith walk to others and praise her for her courage to follow Gods purpose over her life. Don’t minimize the smallest victories. When she hits a goal, whether big or small, take the initiative to celebrate BIG!


     While your husband works to fulfill the purpose in his life he will often come across people who don’t believe in his calling. Don’t allow others to minimize his purpose and passion. Back up what he believes and refrain from letting others think that you fall short in believing in his success. You are his backbone and God gave you to him to hold him straight up when others try to knock him down.


     The most important goal in marriage is to continue praying for each other and for what God has designed for each spouse to be. Prayer will be the most important seed when planting your purpose.

 “For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” (Matt. 18:20)

     Pray that God gives your spouse understanding about this purpose. Pray that He leads and guides them throughout their journey and pray for your spouse’s faith. When your spouse receives understanding and clarity, it will help them with the trials that may come up against and help you walk through it with them. Also, thank God for the blessings He has promised. He has perfectly designed your marriage and only He knows it’s greatest end.



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Husband and Wife for Life Founders, 

Mark and Laquilla Lane

BREAK the ROUTINE in 2015!!


Routine2015   Creativity is a key essential in marriage. Don’t be afraid to do things together that are abnormal, out of the ordinary, different, out of your regular routine and spontaneous. Although there are key components to successful marriages that should be followed, outside of that, it is easy to get wrapped up in how a married couple “suppose” to interact or what they should be doing for each other. Your marriage is unique and special and you should treat each other as such.

         For 2015, commit to being creative. Think of new ideas that your spouse would have never thought you would think of. Treat your spouse to a year of something irregular, unusual, uncommon, or just plain out weird. Besides, who want to see and do the same things over, and over, and over and over again?  It’s those new things that create that needed spark, breaks that boring methodical, and helps you gain a new outlook on what your marriage is and what it can become.

        Don’t know where to begin or need ideas? Start with asking your spouse the kind of things he/she likes to do or the things that are really important to him/her. Write them down. This will give you an excellent base for your new commitment of creativity. Let this list become your inspiration to opening up your mind. Ideas can be as simple as asking your spouse to go on a walk with you to the ice cream store or wearing his/her favorite outfit. Or, as grand as flying your spouse on a weekend getaway to a place he/she has always wanted to go or instead of buying their favorite item…….you learn how to make it. Whatever you choose, always remember that the limit on creativity is endless. It is LIMITLESS. So, never think you have done it all. And, don’t make it hard. Any act of creativity, with thought and love, will never go unnoticed and unappreciated. But, you have to try. Start NOW!

Share your Acts Of Creativity (A.O.C.) on our Facebook and Twitter walls throughout the year!


Mark and Laquilla Lane